Part 5

I'm writing part 5 of my biography on my bed with a headache and feeling very very hungry cause I haven't had anything the whole day. Couldn't really concentrate but I know many are looking forward to reading part 5. Anyway, let's carry on with the part on my step mother. As I was saying they got married as she was pregnant and she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. My little brother is such a cute baby. Life just went on till my step brother was about 3yrs old my dad starts to fool around again.


At that point of time I remembered that dad was working at a chinese restaurant in Bukit Merah SAF Club. He is a self trained musician playing the electrical organ in the restaurant. There was this lady that runs the chinese restaurant. From what I know, she is the mistress of the owner of the restaurant. Somehow or rather something fishy seems to be going on between them. My step mother got suspicious and had a big fight with my dad afterwhich she left my house and went home with my step brother. Not long after, there were some gangster that came knocking on my door and give my dad some sort of a warning which I think got to be associated with that mistress affair thingy.


Dad got pretty upset that my step mother left home with my little brother as he loves him a lot. One night, dad came home, face all blushed, crying and sounded drunk. One thing about my dad is that he doesn't drink. Should I say he can't drink for nuts, one sip of beer could make him look like he just down a bottle of Martell. And he doesn't smoke as well, he only womanizes and gambles. Oh ya, and so he came home knocking on the door, walked in sat on a chair and start weeping. He say he miss my little brother and he's sad that she took him home. Next thing, he turn to me and say "bring me to the 10th flr, I wanna jump down!" At that point of time, in my mind, I'm thinking to myself "this is such a joke" I was sad and amused at the same time. If he really wanna die, he could have went upstairs by himself and jumped. What makes him thinks that I will bring him upstairs to commit suicide right before my eyes? So drama mama, right? Lol...

To Be Continue...

11 One-Ingredient DIY Face Masks

*I'm always lazy to go thru the beauty regime. Chance upon this and find it pretty convenient for men or women. Getting healthy skin with one-ingredient, all-natural, DIY facials with common supplies you can easily find right out of your refrigerator shelf or kitchen cabinet.


1. Honey. Use a cloth damp with warm water and pat skin to open pores. Smear honey onto skin and leave on for 15 to 30 minutes. Rinse off with warm water, and pat skin dry with cloth damp with cold water to close pores.

2. Raw egg yolk. Spread on face and neck and leave on skin for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water.

3. Raw egg white. Beat egg white until frothy and spread on face. Wait until it dries and rinse off with warm water.

4. Grapes. Cut one grape in half and rub lightly all over face.

5. Banana. Mash one overripe banana and spread onto face. Rinse off after 15 to 30 minutes with warm water.

6. Plain yogurt. Apply on face after cleansing and leave on for 15 - 20 minutes.

7. Apple cider vinegar. Dilute apple cider vinegar with two parts water and apply over face with a cotton ball as a toner after washing face every day and every night.

8. Olive oil. Dab on lips at bedtime if chapped or leave on face overnight.

9. Avocado. Mash avocado, leave on skin for ten minutes.

10. Baking soda. Use as exfoliant for face by adding to your regular cleanser.

11. Milk. Seriously? Yes, seriously. Swab on face with cotton ball, leave on until your skin feels tight. Rinse off with warm water. Your skin will feel super-soft afterwards.


* Although all these seems simple but I doubt I'll bother to do it... Heehee... Too lazy... I'm like a man... I think some man does more than me on their beauty regime. Well, actually I don't even have one...

Sometimes the best resistance to a sense of “raging chaos” is non-resistance

A good and spiritual friend of mine once posed the question: “How do you resist insanity?”

Then she answered her own question. “The only way for me, as an individual, to resist is to hold on to who I am amidst all of the forces that want to turn me into something else.”

At first, I thought: “What a wonderful answer! It truly is all about staying centered when external chaos swirls around us. Each of us must stand tall when insanity claws at our clothes.” But then I thought about all the physical forces in my life that have swept me away from what I thought was solid ground, and into the raging current.

What was the purpose of those experiences?

Does one resist insanity or just release it and move on? That has been a constantly recurring question in my life. Usually, I’m stubborn. I exhaust every viable avenue for reducing the insanity before I’ll release it and walk away.
 
Insanity is the realm of bullies and dictators. Choosing to resist their arrogance, violence, and control issues can have huge spiritual benefits, both for the individual resisting, for the bullies, and for the world. It equalizes the playing field and reduces the bullies’ dysfunctional power.

However, if one chooses to resist insanity, there are non-functional and functional ways of doing so.

Spotting the non-functional ways

1. Allowing oneself to get sucked into the dictator’s insanity

2. Screaming

3. Name-calling

4. Hitting

5. Killing

6. Being nice because you’re afraid to set limits and to say ‘no’ and then continuing to feel anger

7. Becoming passive/aggressive

8. Continuing to bang your head against a stone wall that won’t budge


Take this path instead

1. Standing firm in one’s own spiritual identity. This takes a lot of energy when you’re being battered by dysfunctional human beings. You’re just like a lightning rod, standing there all alone, taking that dysfunctional energy and grounding it so it doesn’t harm either you or others. You won’t have enough energy to do that by yourself. If you can trust in and connect to a Power Greater than yourself, you have access to unlimited energy and resources.


2. Visualizing a shield of white light surrounding you that deflects the negative energy back to the perpetrator.


3. Sometimes turning the other cheek. Turning the other cheek often defuses the negative external energy. Why? Because the dysfunctional person expects you to fight and you don’t. It confuses them. The exception is when turning the other cheek is perceived as weakness rather than strength.


4. Setting boundaries or limits on bad behavior and sticking to them. Remove your energy from the bad behavior. Stop enabling it by giving it your attention. (If necessary, physically remove the offending person from your environment and allow him or her to cope without your support.)


5. Walking away so you don’t continue to feed the insanity with your presence and willingness to listen.

Part 4

Thinking back... My life would have been so different if I were to leave with that family. Oh well, guess that's just not what my life should have been. I carry on living my childhood being taken care by different nannies and relatives. Dad got a HDB rental flat from the government when I was about to start my primary school and I moved back to stay with him. I still remember the first day of school dad took so long just to tied my hair for me and I realised that my socks was one up one down looking at my primary one class photo. Lol...


Life kind of got worse after moving home with dad. My dad is a entertainer by profession. He's a stage host, stage manager, singer etc. When I was just a little gal I hang around at theater and big nightclubs. Dad performed with many popular celebrities before. He appeared in newspaper and had lots of photos taken with popular celebrities. My dad is a very smart man, he's good looking, charming and so damn good with his words that many women fall for him. He had so many women in his life that I have absolutely no count of the number of them. My stepmother came into our life while I was in primary school. She's just 12yrs my senior and not a nice woman, typical stepmother figure.


She was staying with us before they got married and it seems like the family doesn't like my dad as he is much older and a divorcee. But that doesn't stop them from being together eventually she got pregnant and had to officially be married to my dad. She wasn't nice to me and kind of bully me every now and then but I just kept quiet didn't tell my dad about how she was towards me. She is the kind that says do your own things and yet she'll ask me to wash the dishes for her. She can cook dinner then say to me that she didn't cook my share asked me to cook myself if I want to eat. WTF?? Well, isn't that a typical stepmother? She even ever whack me before, which was not a big deal cause I get whack by my dad all the time whatever I get from her was nothing compare to those I got from my dad.


To be continue....


*On part 5 I will reveal how I suffered with a violent and temperamental dad.... Right now I'm having a terrible headache and resting at home. Don't want to think so hard about the past, just wanna rest.

Results of some personality quizzes I took

“ What Kind of SUPER Rich Person Would You Be? ”
 
Bill Gates :
Bill and Melinda Gates are in the unique position of being the wealthiest couple in the world, and they seemed to recognize pretty early on that with great wealth (and great power) comes great responsibility. So they decided to get deeply involved in charity work. You share their view of enormous wealth, which means that if you were to suddenly strike it rich, you would almost immediately start donating very large sums to the charities of your choice.
 
“ What's Your Communication Personality? ”

Tactful Truthteller :
You value diplomacy, kindness and honesty, which means you are highly skilled at listening to and negotiating with your partner and others. Because you believe so strongly in open but positively worded communication, you prefer to discuss problems rather than ignore them, albeit in an utterly diplomatic manner. You may work well with a partner who values honest and open -- but also kindly phrased -- communication as much as you do.

" Shape Preference " 
Click on a shape that appeals to you the most:

Down to Earth . . . Well-Balanced . . . Harmonious
You value a natural style and love that which is uncomplicated. People admire you because you have both feet planted firmly on the ground and they can depend on you. You give those who are close to you security and space. You are perceived as being warm and human. You reject everything that is garish and trite. You tend to be skeptical toward the whims of fashion trends. For you, clothing has to be practical and unobtrusively elegant.


*The last quiz I took was a Emotional Intelligence Test that consist of 106 Questions. After spending a long while to complete all questions something went wrong with the connection and I couldn't get the result!!! Damn it!!! Argh... Tired... Going to bed now, be back to update the part 4 of my biography soon...

The 6 Healthiest Staple Foods in Japanese Cuisine

This is an article for those who love Japanese Food. I personally am crazy about Japanes cuisine!

Japanese cuisine relies heavily on the surrounding ocean -- seafood including fish, octopus, squid, crab, clams, shrimp, lobster and seaweed is a staple part of many meals.

Even more standard than seafood, though, is steamed white rice, which is eaten with just about every meal. Beef, noodles and spices like ginger, soy sauce, wasabi (Japanese horseradish), rice wine and rice vinegar are other essential ingredients.

Listed below are the 6 Healthiest Staple Foods in Japanese Cuisine:

1. Miso

Miso is a fermented soybean paste. After fermenting for a number of weeks to years, depending on variety, miso comes out with a texture similar to peanut butter, and a strong, salty flavor. It is used as a condiment, a flavoring agent and to make the popular miso soup.

Health Benefits: Miso contains many trace minerals including zinc, manganese, and copper, which help to strengthen the immune system, boost energy, and protect bones and blood vessels. It is also a rich source of protein -- one tablespoon has 2 grams of protein and just 25 calories.
Studies have also found that substances in miso help reduce the risk of breast cancer. Note: Miso is high in sodium, so it may not be appropriate for those on low-sodium diets.

2. Seaweed

Seaweeds like kelp, wakame, arame and dulse are commonly used to make Japanese salads and are added to soups, stews and other dishes. Seaweed is also used as a wrap for sushi. Seaweed tastes similar to leafy green vegetables, with an underlying salty, sea flavor.

Health Benefits: Seaweed contains the broadest range of minerals of any food -- the same minerals found in the ocean and in human blood, such as potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron, and iodine.

Seaweed also contains vitamin C, fiber, beta-carotene, and pantothenic acid and riboflavin -- two B-vitamins needed for your body to produce energy.

3. Natto

Natto is made from fermented soybeans and is a common breakfast food in Japan. It has a strong smell -- somewhat like a strong cheese -- and a sticky texture, and is often eaten with rice, soy sauce and chopped green onion.

Health Benefits: Natto is an excellent source of protein, vitamin B2, and vitamin k2, which is useful for preventing osteoporosis. It contains compounds including phytoestrogen, selenium and others that may help prevent cancer, and also contains a powerful beneficial enzyme called nattokinase.

Nattokinase has been found to help prevent and reduce the risk of blood clots, as well as provide heart-protective benefits. Some studies suggest that nattokinase can also reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke.

4. Mushrooms

Many mushroom varieties, including shitake and enoki, are popular in Japanese cuisine. They're used in soups, salads, and many other dishes.

Health Benefits: Mushrooms are rich in protein, fiber, vitamin C, B vitamins, calcium and minerals, but they are also renowned for their many medicinal properties. These nutritional powerhouses have been found to:
•Protect heart health
•Lower the risk of cancer
•Boost immune function
•Reduce high cholesterol
•Fight off viruses, bacteria and fungi
•Reduce inflammation
•Combat allergies
•Help balance blood sugar levels
•Support the body's detoxification mechanisms
•Help fight blood clots

5. Green Tea

Green tea is served at the end of traditional Japanese meals (not throughout the meal as is common in the United States). Although widely consumed in Japan for centuries, green tea is thought to have originated in China and Northern India.

Health Benefits: Green tea is a rich source of catechin polyphenols, namely epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG), which is a potent antioxidant that appears to be responsible for many of green tea's health benefits. Green tea has been found to help:

•Cancer
•Rheumatoid arthritis
•High cholesterol levels
•Heart disease
•Infection
•Impaired immune function
•Obesity, overweight
•High blood sugar levels

Note: Certain varieties of green tea (and other tea) may contain excessive levels of fluoride that could be harmful. Before drinking green tea, it's important to find a source that is pure.

6. Sashimi

Sashimi is thinly sliced raw fish, savored for its simplicity and often served with wasabi and soy sauce, and sometimes a bowl of rice.

Health Benefits: Sashimi offers all of the benefits of fresh fish -- an excellent source of protein, omega-3 fats, and other nutrients like selenium, niacin and vitamin B12, phosphorous, magnesium and vitamin B6. Because sashimi is consumed raw, it is possible for it to contain parasites, but choosing "sashimi grade" fish, or dining at a reputable restaurant, should reduce these risks.



*There's a Japanese restaurant located on the 1st floor of Amara Hotel shopping mall called Tokyo Japanese Restaurant, right beside Burger King fast food restaurant. They serve very nice Japanese Ala Carte Buffet for lunch and dinner. I'm not too sure about the price for lunch but for dinner, it's $35++ per pax and they have private rooms for mini gathering. I would say the price is pretty reasonable and value worth for the buffet menu they offered. 

Five Lessons About How To Treat People

1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady"

During a casual conversation with a friend, he popped me a question. "Do you take the effort to know the name of the woman who does the cleaning chores in any of your past and present workplace?


My answer? Not really... I just called them aunty. He said "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."


I've never forgotten that conversation. People comes and go in your life, especially those who does job that not many will do. Many of which are old folks that is still working at their age when they should be enjoying retirement life. They deserve our respect and we should take the effort to know them and remember who they are.


2. Second Important Lesson - "Pickup In The Rain"

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an old lady was standing at the bus stop will her hands full of things trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Soaking wet, she decided to take cab. She waited for a long time but there was no cab in sight. To her surprise a cab that says 'Hired' stops in front of her and a young man took her to safety, assist her with her things and put her into the cab.


She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."


3. Third Important Lesson - "Remember Those Who Serve"

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "50¢," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.


"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "35¢!" she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.


When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.


4. Fourth Important Lesson - "The Obstacles In Our Path"

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.


Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."


5. Fifth Important Lesson - "Giving When It Counts"

Many years ago, a friend worked as a volunteer at a hospital, she got to know a little girl named Lisa who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. He hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her."


As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.


*There are many small little things that we miss out in life that could make us a better person. Slow down for a moment, look around and you will realise the the right way around human interaction...

Part 3

The first few parts of my biography will basically be my grandfather grand mother stories... Lol... I actually do not know much about my grand father. My grand father not only have one family, although my grand mother is the official wife but they were not officially registered by law. My so called second grandma was the lawfully wife.

My life kind of turn upside down when grandma passed away. I was not even 4yrs old then. As dad needs to work, I was thrown here and there like a basket ball to be taken care by nannies and relatives. The feeling of being taken care of by strangers really sucks. Not having your family around and sleeping at others house is not good at all. Growing up without a mum is pathetic especially when I'm a gal.

I remembered that I had a bad fall at one of the nanny's house was rushed to the hospital and had my head stitched. I had very deep impression of the incident cause they send me to the hospital without wearing shoes for me and it was so cold my feet freeze. From the day grandma passed away till before I attended primary school, I was basically deposited to different house here and there.


There's was this family that I once stayed with which seems to be pretty rich from what I recalled. They are not one of the nannies, instead they are my father's friend. It's this old couple with their grown up children. They stayed in this big two storey private mansion apartment with a swimming pool downstairs. The old couple and their children seems to love me a lot. I had fun staying with them for a short while. My dad told me that they actually wanted to adopt me and pay my dad a sum of money and dad actually agreed on the deal.


That family had already planned to migrate to the States bringing me along with them. What happen next was that on the last night before I'm about to go with them, dad brought me out for farewell dinner and ice cream. I was told by my dad that I cried cause I didn't want to leave with them. Damn! Why did I do that? I should have go with them. My life would have been so different if I made that move. Oh well, I was still so young then what would I know?

To be continue...

Part 2

Part 1 of my biography ends with grandma being admitted to the hospital. She passed away in the hospital shortly after. There was a grand funeral for her below our old house under the block of those Redhill 7th storey flat. I have no memory of the funeral at all, guess I was still too young then. All the memory I had was when I go through the photo album of the funeral.

Some of the memory I had of grandma was one of which she brought me to a jewellery shop at Chinatown to have my ear lopes pierce. I had vivid collection of myself sitting on the chair, crying hysterically when my ear lopes were pierced. And believe it or not, that's the only ear holes I have since then till now. I never had the courage to or should I say I actually didn't seriously have the intention to pierce anymore holes on myself, as I don't really wear earrings all the time. The other memory of my grandma I had was that she brought me to Chinatown for those car rides. Those which you pay a small amount for like a 15mins rides around the enclose open area for the rides.

My grandma was a motherly figure which all her sons loved dearly. I was told she was the best mother one ever had. She married my grandpa, dutifully fulfilled her part as a wife and a mother to her seven children. My grandpa was not a good husband nor is he a good father. I was told he don't his part as a husband. He doesn't support the family, he don't take care of his kids, he womanize and abuses my grandma. That reminds me of someone which I will slowly reveal in the later part of my biography.

To Be Continue...

16th Dec 1975 Part 1

On the day 16/12/1975 a little baby gal was brought to this little dot 'Singapore' on the map. I was told by my dad that the doctor and nurses told him that he had a pretty little baby gal. I am the child of a talented, handsome & charming man and a beautiful woman whom I doesn't know much of. My life begins... I don't have much impression of my baby childhood time except for some baby photos that was taken during those days. I was told by many others of what had happen after I was born. My parent divorce shorting after I was born. Due to the fact that my grandma give birth to only sons, I had a total of six uncles including my dad which rounds up to seven. My uncles had only sons as well, that was the reason that my dad fight for my custody. My grand ma wanted gals in the family but she never had any. Well, was that the real reason? Was there even a law case to fight for my custody? Or is it my mum simply didn't want to take me with her? I wouldn't know... Grandma took care of me till I was about 4yrs old and she passed away in 1979. I do not have much impression of her. I was told that we were at my grand aunty's house, she carried me to the toilet to pee and she fainted. That's when the ambulance was called for and she was send to the hospital. While she was there, the doctor informed everyone that she had high blood pressure. Having seven sons and nobody knows that she was sick? That's such a sad thing. Everybody starts putting the blame on each others for not taking good care of her. I was told that some even put the blame on a innocent little gal who's not even 4yrs old. They said if it's not because of taking care of me and bringing me to the toilet she wouldn't have fainted. I was pretty upset when this was told to me. There we have 7 grown up who doesn't know their poor mother is sick and when things happened, everybody starts shifting blame. They are not even ashame that they actually put the blame on me when I wasn't even 4yrs old back then. Such a laughing stock...
To Be Continue...



It's 6:45am now and I have finished on the first part of my biography. I might not be able to recall many details of my life but will try my best to recall whatever I can. Never have the habit of writing diary but now I am gonna try to write it all down bit by bit. I dunno how long it will take me to reach the present now but I'm going to patiently jot it down to my life now and carry on from here. Please bear with my blog site as it's still under construction. Will be back to make it better. Time for me to catch some sleep... Good day...

Foreword

Took me a while before I decide on whether or not I should start blogging. Finally I took the first step to set up an account. Was going about checking out the functions available in blogspot I've come to realised that for a not too IT proficient person like me, I can only figure out about 70% of operating all the functions. Will seek advises on how to fully utilise this blog page. The title of my blog is AG Biography, pretty obvious I'm going to share my life story online. I'm a nobody, just a ordinary woman with an extraordinary life. I'm not yet successful nor am I a popular individual. I'm just a woman with a interesting life story to share. I'm new to blogging although I hv been reading lots of other's blog and I realise that many blog page are like bimbo's diary. There are no substance in the contents of the things they wrote. Well, I do have to admit to the fact that my command of english may not be pre and proper and I would not be able to update daily but it will definitely not be a bimbo's dairy, lol... Also if u r expecting lots of photos to be posted here, I'm afraid I'll hv to disappoint u. I hv decide to minimize the posting of photos here as a blog should be a place where I pen down my thoughts, share my experiences or write some interesting article. Not a place to be flooded with more photos than words. I hv an FB account to post or update my photos. Keep a lookout for the occasional updates of the Biography of Alycia Goh.