My numerology readings based on:
Birth Name: Alycia Goh Eng Yeng
(Although Alycia is not my birth name but it's the name I am using now, so I included it in)
Birth Date: 12/16/1975 (December 16, 1975)
*Your Inner or Soul's Urge: This is spiritual and emotional expression more than physical. It is your heart-felt desires, your incentive, how you look at life. Here are your areas of personal satisfaction.
Number: 5
You yearn for personal freedom in every direction, including expression of free will; for change, variety, and constant new opportunity; and to learn about life in all its phases.
The new, the unusual, the progressive -- these are where your enthusiasms are. Waiting around, being stuck in routine, and petty details are personal agitations.
Because of your desire to experience everything in life to its fullest before you let it go, you may tend to overdo sensual experience such as sex, alcohol, drugs, and food.
Instead of formal education, much of your wisdom comes from your tremendous range of activities and your contact with people of many classes and races and walks of life. This can put you in great demand as an alive and witty lecturer or teacher. You tend to be flexible, progressive, and restless.
You can enhance your life experience even more by increasing your sense of loyalty and your patience, better defining your purposes in life, and not scattering your attention so much by going too many directions at once.
*Your Personality: This is physical expression more than spiritual or emotional; your outer self, the way you express when meeting others. It may or may not be the real you.
Number: 9
You have a magnetic personality, although sometimes appear to lack forcefulness. Your pleasing manner can influence others easily. When not interested, you can appear distant. Usually you appear generous, tolerant, idealistic, altruistic, artistic, and, at times, mystical.
You can seem to view life too seriously, especially when your emotions dwell on the negative.
Your personality is not helped by wearing black. To enhance your appearance and personality, wear colors; clothing that is comfortable but not careless.
*Your Quiescent Self: Stripping away all outside influences, aspirations, ambitions, "shoulds", and "shouldn'ts" -- this is you when you are alone; just you and your dreams..
Number: 9
You are a great humanitarian, eager to be of service for the betterment of all humanity. You support and perpetuate effective social organizations whose goals are the helping of mankind. You Love the human race. You are a great artist and your works serve to inspire others on a broad scale.
Your thoughts and pleasure are being of selfless service to humanity in conjunction with personal Love and happiness.
*Your Destiny or Ultimate Goal: This is your desired lifetime accomplishment. It is a key to a useful and happy life, and to feeling fulfillment during your latter days.
Number: 5
Your destiny is to promote the idea of liberty for all; knowing that happiness cannot last without the right to be free. You know progress comes through change, by entertaining new ideas and trying new methods. Your destiny includes helping people live life more fully and with more joy. You are versatile and clever.
You are comfortable interacting with people of diverse races and backgrounds, a natural lecturer or teacher, an artist with written and spoken words, and capable of understanding many different viewpoints. You insist on having freedom of action and speech. Your life changes often, sometimes unpredictably, and you enjoy it because each change brings new opportunities to understand and absorb yet more aspects of life. You love travel and the open spaces, and you have the best opportunities to succeed in occupations that have those qualities and also bring you in contact with people, including sales, acting, speaking, teaching, commercial artist, legal fields, or as a writer or editor.
You are striking, attention getting, entertaining, and find it easier to move about than to make permanent associations with people or undertakings.
*Your Life's Path: Here are clues to what fate has in store for you. It indicates the type of encounters, events, and opportunities you are likely to experience along your physical life path.
Number: 5
Your path holds frequent change, variety, travel, and the unexpected with a thorough mingling among humanity. You will grow by adapting yourself to change and uncertainty. Crowds and audiences appeal to you. You are passionately independent. You experience restlessness or impatience when things move along too slowly or when constant repetition becomes monotonous.
You sense that experience is the best teacher and that you learn best while you maintain your sense of individual freedom. You may have a tendency to misuse your freedom with over-indulgence of the senses, but that can be corrected by using your holistic sense of free will to go on to new adventures, and thereby discarding what no longer serves a purpose.
You have an innate ingenuity and can benefit from scientific, inventive, and resourceful people. You are versatile and clever. Things don't stay the same for long where you are.
You can understand all classes and conditions of people and can adapt yourself to unusual circumstances and conditions. Be alert to seize all that is novel and progressive. You profit by contact with other people.
*Well, somewhat true but not all... Just try for fun... Go try it from this website: http://affinitynumerology.com/#G1262116026967
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Friday, December 18, 2009
16th Dec 2009 My 34th Birthday & AG Biography Part 7
Just celebrated my 34th birthday. Another year flew past. This year wasn't good as well. Started the year quitting my previous job and ending my relationship of 2 & 1/2yrs within the first few months. Moved out of where we stayed together and renting a room by myself again. Was hibernating at home till May and decide that enough is enough, time to move on and get a life back. Started going out and met some old friends. Met Alan, offered me a job to assist him in running a pub at Tanjong Pagar under Octopus Group. To be honest, pay sucks but since I wasn't working I took up the job anyway. After I'm back to this trade, everyone starts coming to me with job offers from other pubs, shall not mention names but due to friendship I did not take up the other offers. As I wouldn't want to go from one place to another and bring away the businesses as it's for the sake of friendship that I'm there. Don't wanna spoil friendship that way and I'm very sick of night life anyway.
Had a nice buffet spread on the 15th Dec 2009, complimentary from Octopus Group. Many friends pop by and I had a great time. Will post up the photos on FB once I get them loaded up as I've got some problem loading them on my lappy. Wasn't very drunk on the 15th and headed to DF after work with with 2 gal friends. On the 16th, some old friends popped by too it's been a while since I've seen many of them. So nice to catch up once in awhile like that. Head to DF again after work. This time round was a little drunk, couldn't recall things again. It's been a while since I celebrate my birthday. I had a great one this year, although the year wasn't that good but I hope from now on it'll be good. Bad year, been falling down and getting myself injure all over. Had a bad hit on my head and got 13 stitches on my left forehead thus making me change my hair parting to the left side to cover it. Very long scar, so I haven't had my hair tied up when I go out nowadays. Overall, my birthday celebration was a success this year. It's the end of the year now, a brand new year ahead for us. Let's make the best out of our life from now on...
AG Biography Part7
There might be a little messy in sequence as I am trying very hard to recall things that happened before in my childhood. Memory is failing me lately, only things that leave impression in me I'm able to recall. I remembered that my dad took so long to tied my hair for me on my first day of primary school and from my primary school photos my socks was one side high the other side low, so funny. One incident I remembered was in primary 3, I was top 5 in class on the first half of the year and drop to 10++ at the end of the year. Guess what happen to my report book? U know the one that u got to use from primary one until u finish school? It went into a pail of water and was thrown downstairs, that's what happened. I got to call my uncle to come pick it up for me. He was the nicest uncle I ever had. He picked it up brought back home blow dry it and wrap it with plastic cover for me.
When I was in primary school, I'm always locked up at home when dad goes to work at night. Never had nice home cooked food, always eat out and have canned food or maggi mee. Life goes on without my step mother and brother. Living in fear everyday as dad is very tempermental and violent. I had my hair cut by him once in primary school when I had a pony tail and he chop it off leaving me with short boy's cut hair style. The second time my hair got cut by him was worse. I was staying with one of my uncle and one day a school mate of mine had a fight with her parents I offered her to come over and stay with me a few days. We lied to my uncle saying that her parents went overseas so she will be staying for a day or two. She didn't go school that day and I followed her. At night when we got home, her parents came over brought her home.
My dad came over and give me hell and threaten to cut off my hair so I couldn't leave the house or go to school, basically grounded me by cutting away my hair. My uncle and aunty helped to hold me down so my dad could cut my hair. I beg him not to and I say I'll jump down from there just don't cut my hair. My dad says, u can go jump after I cut your hair. So he took the scissor and chop off my locks right from the top of my head. This time round it's beyond repaired. I look terrible. I couldn't go to school and when I try going to school with a hat everyone laughs at me. A chinese teacher took pity on me and gave me money to get a wig but I look terrible with it and am worried people will pull it off so I decided to drop school.
That's when I came out to work, did many jobs. A week of factory work, shampoo gal, coffee house waitress etc. When I was 16 which is the legal official age to work I went into retail line. In between those years I took up private course twice and due to no financial support I've got to work and study at time same time which I eventually flank either one side. So I decide to just concentrate on working as I need the money. I started running away from home as I couldn't take the abusive treatment at home. I dun wanna live in fear anymore. So since 16yrs old I hv been running in and out of my house, brought to the police station twice by my dad. When I'm 20, I stayed out for good till now. Been renting rooms here and there, moving around every year or half a year all the way till now. Life have been tough on me, my life wasn't good.
To be continue...
*Will talk about my mum on part 8, stay tuned...
Had a nice buffet spread on the 15th Dec 2009, complimentary from Octopus Group. Many friends pop by and I had a great time. Will post up the photos on FB once I get them loaded up as I've got some problem loading them on my lappy. Wasn't very drunk on the 15th and headed to DF after work with with 2 gal friends. On the 16th, some old friends popped by too it's been a while since I've seen many of them. So nice to catch up once in awhile like that. Head to DF again after work. This time round was a little drunk, couldn't recall things again. It's been a while since I celebrate my birthday. I had a great one this year, although the year wasn't that good but I hope from now on it'll be good. Bad year, been falling down and getting myself injure all over. Had a bad hit on my head and got 13 stitches on my left forehead thus making me change my hair parting to the left side to cover it. Very long scar, so I haven't had my hair tied up when I go out nowadays. Overall, my birthday celebration was a success this year. It's the end of the year now, a brand new year ahead for us. Let's make the best out of our life from now on...
AG Biography Part7
There might be a little messy in sequence as I am trying very hard to recall things that happened before in my childhood. Memory is failing me lately, only things that leave impression in me I'm able to recall. I remembered that my dad took so long to tied my hair for me on my first day of primary school and from my primary school photos my socks was one side high the other side low, so funny. One incident I remembered was in primary 3, I was top 5 in class on the first half of the year and drop to 10++ at the end of the year. Guess what happen to my report book? U know the one that u got to use from primary one until u finish school? It went into a pail of water and was thrown downstairs, that's what happened. I got to call my uncle to come pick it up for me. He was the nicest uncle I ever had. He picked it up brought back home blow dry it and wrap it with plastic cover for me.
When I was in primary school, I'm always locked up at home when dad goes to work at night. Never had nice home cooked food, always eat out and have canned food or maggi mee. Life goes on without my step mother and brother. Living in fear everyday as dad is very tempermental and violent. I had my hair cut by him once in primary school when I had a pony tail and he chop it off leaving me with short boy's cut hair style. The second time my hair got cut by him was worse. I was staying with one of my uncle and one day a school mate of mine had a fight with her parents I offered her to come over and stay with me a few days. We lied to my uncle saying that her parents went overseas so she will be staying for a day or two. She didn't go school that day and I followed her. At night when we got home, her parents came over brought her home.
My dad came over and give me hell and threaten to cut off my hair so I couldn't leave the house or go to school, basically grounded me by cutting away my hair. My uncle and aunty helped to hold me down so my dad could cut my hair. I beg him not to and I say I'll jump down from there just don't cut my hair. My dad says, u can go jump after I cut your hair. So he took the scissor and chop off my locks right from the top of my head. This time round it's beyond repaired. I look terrible. I couldn't go to school and when I try going to school with a hat everyone laughs at me. A chinese teacher took pity on me and gave me money to get a wig but I look terrible with it and am worried people will pull it off so I decided to drop school.
That's when I came out to work, did many jobs. A week of factory work, shampoo gal, coffee house waitress etc. When I was 16 which is the legal official age to work I went into retail line. In between those years I took up private course twice and due to no financial support I've got to work and study at time same time which I eventually flank either one side. So I decide to just concentrate on working as I need the money. I started running away from home as I couldn't take the abusive treatment at home. I dun wanna live in fear anymore. So since 16yrs old I hv been running in and out of my house, brought to the police station twice by my dad. When I'm 20, I stayed out for good till now. Been renting rooms here and there, moving around every year or half a year all the way till now. Life have been tough on me, my life wasn't good.
To be continue...
*Will talk about my mum on part 8, stay tuned...
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Believe it or not??
It's been a while since I celebrate my birthday. Hv not had a happy one for a long long time. Was thinking of having a small celebration and make myself happier to welcome the next brand new yr but dun seems like it's working. And also as business is bad lately at my workplace was hoping it will bring in a little sales. If not, with my situation now I wouldn't hv the mood to even celebrate. It's another pathetic yr for me. So pathetic I dun think anyone will believe it.
Struggling every month, can't even remember when's the last time I buy any new clothes and shoes for myself. Clothes I can skip but shoes many already spoiled but still I can't afford to buy. Every month I'm struggling with debts, rental, bills and daily allowance which is not even enough. Just finished my make up stuffs a month ago couldn't afford to even buy new ones. Dig out the old ones and manage to use them for a while but it's all finished again. It's my birthday today finally manage to go colour away all my white hair few days ago but couldn't afford to buy my neccessary make up, toiletries and some food to store at home to eat after that.
If someone will to ask me for my wish list. It will be, powder, masacara, blusher, eye brow and eye liner pencil, make up remover, shampoo, conditioner, shower foam, facial cleanser, maggi mee, dry food, hp(coz mine spoil few months back been using old phones I borrowed from friends) and shoes(which many is spoil but I'm force to wear them as I hv no money to buy new ones) That's how pathetic I am now. Many might think I shouldn't be sharing pathetic stuff like that in public but I find that it's nothing to be disgrace about. Everyone hv their down times, just that I hv more, lol...Anyway, I really hope after this birthday things will really change and turn the tide around for me. I've suffered enough. Didn't sleep much again, couldn't sleep well anyway. WIll try my best to be happy these 2 days. Hope all my friends will enjoy my birthday with me...
*P.S. Special thanks to Lawrence who will be baking a birthday cake for me. Really appreciate as no one has ever bake me a cake on my birthday. And he is a new friend which I just knew. Very sweet of him... Touched...
Struggling every month, can't even remember when's the last time I buy any new clothes and shoes for myself. Clothes I can skip but shoes many already spoiled but still I can't afford to buy. Every month I'm struggling with debts, rental, bills and daily allowance which is not even enough. Just finished my make up stuffs a month ago couldn't afford to even buy new ones. Dig out the old ones and manage to use them for a while but it's all finished again. It's my birthday today finally manage to go colour away all my white hair few days ago but couldn't afford to buy my neccessary make up, toiletries and some food to store at home to eat after that.
If someone will to ask me for my wish list. It will be, powder, masacara, blusher, eye brow and eye liner pencil, make up remover, shampoo, conditioner, shower foam, facial cleanser, maggi mee, dry food, hp(coz mine spoil few months back been using old phones I borrowed from friends) and shoes(which many is spoil but I'm force to wear them as I hv no money to buy new ones) That's how pathetic I am now. Many might think I shouldn't be sharing pathetic stuff like that in public but I find that it's nothing to be disgrace about. Everyone hv their down times, just that I hv more, lol...Anyway, I really hope after this birthday things will really change and turn the tide around for me. I've suffered enough. Didn't sleep much again, couldn't sleep well anyway. WIll try my best to be happy these 2 days. Hope all my friends will enjoy my birthday with me...
*P.S. Special thanks to Lawrence who will be baking a birthday cake for me. Really appreciate as no one has ever bake me a cake on my birthday. And he is a new friend which I just knew. Very sweet of him... Touched...
Monday, December 7, 2009
Eight Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation
Emotional Manipulation is Also "Covert Aggression." See: "Psychopaths: Wolves in Sheep's Clothing"
1) There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator. You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment - but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (don’t be surprised to see real tears at this point) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry." Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all - but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting their angst!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played - don’t capitulate! Do not care take - do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit - it probably is. Rule number one - if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver - it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.
2) An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper. If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" - they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever - they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making - which is something emotional manipulators are very good at. Rule number two - If an emotional manipulator said YES - make them accountable for it. Do NOT buy into the sighs and subtleties - if they don’t want to do it - make them tell you it up front - or just put on the walk-man headphones and run a bath and leave them to their theater.
3) Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it. If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away. They can lie so smoothly that you can sit looking at black and they’ll call it white - and argue so persuasively that you begin to doubt your very senses. Over a period of time this is so insidious and eroding it can literally alter your sense of reality. WARNING: Emotional Manipulation is VERY Dangerous! It is very disconcerting for an emotional manipulator if you begin carrying a pad of paper and a pen and making notations during conversations. Feel free to let them know you just are feeling so "forgetful" these days that you want to record their words for posterity’s sake. The damndest thing about this is that having to do such a thing is a clear example for why you should be seriously thinking about removing yourself from range in the first place. If you’re toting a notebook to safeguard yourself - that ol’ bullshit meter should be flashing steady by now!
4) Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers. They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator. Emotional manipulators seldom express their needs or desires openly - they get what they want through emotional manipulation. Guilt is not the only form of this but it is a potent one. Most of us are pretty conditioned to do whatever is necessary to reduce our feelings of guilt. Another powerful emotion that is used is sympathy. An emotional manipulator is a great victim. They inspire a profound sense of needing to support, care for and nurture. Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! Try to make a point of not fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them. A great line is "I have every confidence in your ability to work this out on your own" - check out the response and note the bullshit meter once again.
5) Emotional manipulators fight dirty. They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it. Example: "Of course I want you to go back to school honey and you know I’ll support you." Then exam night you are sitting at the table and poker buddies show up, the kids are crying the t.v. blasting and the dog needs walking - all the while "Sweetie" is sitting on their ass looking at you blankly. Dare you call them on such behavior you are likely to hear, "well you can’t expect life to just stop because you have an exam can you honey?" Cry, scream or choke ‘em - only the last will have any long-term benefits and it’ll probably wind your butt in jail.
6) If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor! No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves. If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded or very petulant and call you selfish - or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight. The thing is that even tho you know this is not the case you are left with the impossible task of proving it. Don’t bother - TRUST your gut and walk away!
7) Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them. When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it - it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better - fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs - let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
8) Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability. They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
1) There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator. You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response - "It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment - but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (don’t be surprised to see real tears at this point) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry." Even as you are hearing the words you get the creeped out sensation that they really do NOT mean they are sorry at all - but since they’ve said the words you’re pretty much left with nothing more to say. Either that or you suddenly find yourself babysitting their angst!! Under all circumstances if you feel this angle is being played - don’t capitulate! Do not care take - do not accept an apology that feels like bullshit. If it feels like bullshit - it probably is. Rule number one - if dealing with an emotional blackmailer TRUST your gut. TRUST your senses. Once an emotional manipulator finds a successful maneuver - it’s added to their hit list and you’ll be fed a steady diet of this shit.
2) An emotional manipulator is the picture of a willing helper. If you ask them to do something they will almost always agree - that is IF they didn’t volunteer to do it first. Then when you say, "ok thanks" - they make a bunch of heavy sighs, or other non verbal signs that let you know they don’t really want to do whatever said thing happens to be. When you tell them it doesn’t seem like they want to do whatever - they will turn it around and try to make it seem like OF COURSE they wanted to and how unreasonable you are. This is a form of crazy making - which is something emotional manipulators are very good at. Rule number two - If an emotional manipulator said YES - make them accountable for it. Do NOT buy into the sighs and subtleties - if they don’t want to do it - make them tell you it up front - or just put on the walk-man headphones and run a bath and leave them to their theater.
3) Crazy making - saying one thing and later assuring you they did not say it. If you find yourself in a relationship where you figure you should start keeping a log of what’s been said because you are beginning to question your own sanity --You are experiencing emotional manipulation. An emotional manipulator is an expert in turning things around, rationalizing, justifying and explaining things away. They can lie so smoothly that you can sit looking at black and they’ll call it white - and argue so persuasively that you begin to doubt your very senses. Over a period of time this is so insidious and eroding it can literally alter your sense of reality. WARNING: Emotional Manipulation is VERY Dangerous! It is very disconcerting for an emotional manipulator if you begin carrying a pad of paper and a pen and making notations during conversations. Feel free to let them know you just are feeling so "forgetful" these days that you want to record their words for posterity’s sake. The damndest thing about this is that having to do such a thing is a clear example for why you should be seriously thinking about removing yourself from range in the first place. If you’re toting a notebook to safeguard yourself - that ol’ bullshit meter should be flashing steady by now!
4) Guilt. Emotional manipulators are excellent guilt mongers. They can make you feel guilty for speaking up or not speaking up, for being emotional or not being emotional enough, for giving and caring, or for not giving and caring enough. Any thing is fair game and open to guilt with an emotional manipulator. Emotional manipulators seldom express their needs or desires openly - they get what they want through emotional manipulation. Guilt is not the only form of this but it is a potent one. Most of us are pretty conditioned to do whatever is necessary to reduce our feelings of guilt. Another powerful emotion that is used is sympathy. An emotional manipulator is a great victim. They inspire a profound sense of needing to support, care for and nurture. Emotional Manipulators seldom fight their own fights or do their own dirty work. The crazy thing is that when you do it for them (which they will never ask directly for), they may just turn around and say they certainly didn’t want or expect you to do anything! Try to make a point of not fighting other people’s battles, or doing their dirty work for them. A great line is "I have every confidence in your ability to work this out on your own" - check out the response and note the bullshit meter once again.
5) Emotional manipulators fight dirty. They don’t deal with things directly. They will talk around behind your back and eventually put others in the position of telling you what they would not say themselves. They are passive aggressive, meaning they find subtle ways of letting you know they are not happy little campers. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear and then do a bunch of jerk off shit to undermine it. Example: "Of course I want you to go back to school honey and you know I’ll support you." Then exam night you are sitting at the table and poker buddies show up, the kids are crying the t.v. blasting and the dog needs walking - all the while "Sweetie" is sitting on their ass looking at you blankly. Dare you call them on such behavior you are likely to hear, "well you can’t expect life to just stop because you have an exam can you honey?" Cry, scream or choke ‘em - only the last will have any long-term benefits and it’ll probably wind your butt in jail.
6) If you have a headache an emotional manipulator will have a brain tumor! No matter what your situation is the emotional manipulator has probably been there or is there now - but only ten times worse. It’s hard after a period of time to feel emotionally connected to an emotional manipulator because they have a way of de-railing conversations and putting the spotlight back on themselves. If you call them on this behavior they will likely become deeply wounded or very petulant and call you selfish - or claim that it is you who are always in the spotlight. The thing is that even tho you know this is not the case you are left with the impossible task of proving it. Don’t bother - TRUST your gut and walk away!
7) Emotional manipulators somehow have the ability to impact the emotional climate of those around them. When an emotional manipulator is sad or angry the very room thrums with it - it brings a deep instinctual response to find someway to equalize the emotional climate and the quickest route is by making the emotional manipulator feel better - fixing whatever is broken for them. Stick with this type of loser for too long and you will be so enmeshed and co-dependent you will forget you even have needs - let alone that you have just as much right to have your needs met.
8) Emotional manipulators have no sense of accountability. They take no responsibility for themselves or their behavior - it is always about what everyone else has "done to them". One of the easiest ways to spot an emotional manipulator is that they often attempt to establish intimacy through the early sharing of deeply personal information that is generally of the "hook-you-in-and-make-you-sorry-for-me" variety. Initially you may perceive this type of person as very sensitive, emotionally open and maybe a little vulnerable. Believe me when I say that an emotional manipulator is about as vulnerable as a rabid pit bull, and there will always be a problem or a crisis to overcome.
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Part 6
*Sorry for such a long delay from my biography part 5 to 6 as I was quite busy with setting up the new Onyx branch at Boat Quay.
Let's carry on with the real life story of my drama dad and his relationship with my step mother. Eventually they could not mend the marriage and decided to get a divorce. My dad was pretty upset but I highly doubt it's because of losing my step mother, it's more likely of losing his son. They compromise on the term that my dad is allow to bring him home once or twice a week to spend some time with us. While they were separated and getting thru the divorce procedure, me and my dad would bring my little brother out for some fun moment. He was such a cute and smart little boy then, only 3yrs old. That's the best moment of a child.
At times when he's naughty my dad would scold him and he would stand on the chair beside me, hug me around my neck, stare at my dad and scold him back saying he would call the police. Lol... So cute isn't he? I clearly remembered another incident when he was bathing in those small tub and wouldn't get out of the water. My dad got so piss and started shouting at him. He folded his arm, frown at my dad and told him off saying "pa pa! u cannot scold me huh!" He was so cute my dad couldn't bear to be angry with him. He's the only one in the whole world that can whack and scold my dad and will not get it.
Life goes on with this routine, my little brother will get to spend some time with us each week till some thing happened. One night as usual after spending a day with us, my dad brought him home. The moment he reaches the void deck of my step mother's place, he saw her coming back on a bike with another man. Jealousy gets to him, I guess. He was so pissed that he brought my step brother back home again and doesn't want to send him back to her. The next morning my step mother came up to my place with the police. They went to the station had an argument and my dad decided not to see him anymore. That is the last I've seen of my little step brother. He is born in 1989 and he is 20 now, all grown up. Dad heard his news thru some common friends and know that he is a smart boy, goes to good school and study real hard. Well, that's such a comfort to hear. It's a good thing he didn't follow my dad, if he did things will be very different.
His life would probably not be so good. He might even go through the shit that I went through. My dad is very temperamental, bad tempered and violent. A man over flowed with pride and ego. I only moved home from all the different nannies and relatives house to stay with him when I'm about 7yrs old. Hell starts bit by bit, he's like a volcano that will erupt any moment. I have to be very careful with my words in case I say something that he doesn't like to hear, I'll get into trouble. I have to pray that nothing in the house spoils, if not I will get it. I have to make sure nobody complain anything about me to him, if not I can't imagine how I will suffer.
The moment something spoils at home, it's always me and it have to be me and no one else even when my step mother is still with us. I will sure be the one to get it. My dad doesn't whack me with cane. I'm like a stress releaser for him. He would vent everything on me. When he's out there working he's really nice to everyone and so no one really believe the kind of shit I get from him at home. He would always pull my hair and slam on the walls, kick me, throw things at me, use belt to whip me, chase me down the stairs and give me a kick from behind and start kicking me when I'm on the floor, cut my hair, put me out of the window to make me admit things that i never do and threaten to throw me down, pour water on me when im on bed and I do not dare to get up so slept thru the night all wet, point joss sticks on me face so near that i move a cm I'll be burned. I do not retaliate or answer him or argue or quarrel with him and yet I am getting all that. Can u even imagine what will become of me if I did? I guess I will be long dead! There's a lot more but I think it's time to stop for now before my mood is affected by thinking too much of the past.
*Part 6 should be the longest episode so far. As I might not be able to update so often, I will try to write a longer one each time. In order not to think about the past so much when I'm trying to refresh my memory and things start getting back to me, I would stop and carry on next time. Wouldn't want to upset myself with all these bad memories...
Happy Reading...
To Be Continue...
Let's carry on with the real life story of my drama dad and his relationship with my step mother. Eventually they could not mend the marriage and decided to get a divorce. My dad was pretty upset but I highly doubt it's because of losing my step mother, it's more likely of losing his son. They compromise on the term that my dad is allow to bring him home once or twice a week to spend some time with us. While they were separated and getting thru the divorce procedure, me and my dad would bring my little brother out for some fun moment. He was such a cute and smart little boy then, only 3yrs old. That's the best moment of a child.
At times when he's naughty my dad would scold him and he would stand on the chair beside me, hug me around my neck, stare at my dad and scold him back saying he would call the police. Lol... So cute isn't he? I clearly remembered another incident when he was bathing in those small tub and wouldn't get out of the water. My dad got so piss and started shouting at him. He folded his arm, frown at my dad and told him off saying "pa pa! u cannot scold me huh!" He was so cute my dad couldn't bear to be angry with him. He's the only one in the whole world that can whack and scold my dad and will not get it.
Life goes on with this routine, my little brother will get to spend some time with us each week till some thing happened. One night as usual after spending a day with us, my dad brought him home. The moment he reaches the void deck of my step mother's place, he saw her coming back on a bike with another man. Jealousy gets to him, I guess. He was so pissed that he brought my step brother back home again and doesn't want to send him back to her. The next morning my step mother came up to my place with the police. They went to the station had an argument and my dad decided not to see him anymore. That is the last I've seen of my little step brother. He is born in 1989 and he is 20 now, all grown up. Dad heard his news thru some common friends and know that he is a smart boy, goes to good school and study real hard. Well, that's such a comfort to hear. It's a good thing he didn't follow my dad, if he did things will be very different.
His life would probably not be so good. He might even go through the shit that I went through. My dad is very temperamental, bad tempered and violent. A man over flowed with pride and ego. I only moved home from all the different nannies and relatives house to stay with him when I'm about 7yrs old. Hell starts bit by bit, he's like a volcano that will erupt any moment. I have to be very careful with my words in case I say something that he doesn't like to hear, I'll get into trouble. I have to pray that nothing in the house spoils, if not I will get it. I have to make sure nobody complain anything about me to him, if not I can't imagine how I will suffer.
The moment something spoils at home, it's always me and it have to be me and no one else even when my step mother is still with us. I will sure be the one to get it. My dad doesn't whack me with cane. I'm like a stress releaser for him. He would vent everything on me. When he's out there working he's really nice to everyone and so no one really believe the kind of shit I get from him at home. He would always pull my hair and slam on the walls, kick me, throw things at me, use belt to whip me, chase me down the stairs and give me a kick from behind and start kicking me when I'm on the floor, cut my hair, put me out of the window to make me admit things that i never do and threaten to throw me down, pour water on me when im on bed and I do not dare to get up so slept thru the night all wet, point joss sticks on me face so near that i move a cm I'll be burned. I do not retaliate or answer him or argue or quarrel with him and yet I am getting all that. Can u even imagine what will become of me if I did? I guess I will be long dead! There's a lot more but I think it's time to stop for now before my mood is affected by thinking too much of the past.
*Part 6 should be the longest episode so far. As I might not be able to update so often, I will try to write a longer one each time. In order not to think about the past so much when I'm trying to refresh my memory and things start getting back to me, I would stop and carry on next time. Wouldn't want to upset myself with all these bad memories...
Happy Reading...
To Be Continue...
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Onyx 1, 2, 3
Let me introduce my workplace to everyone in details here...
Onyx 1 - (Closed)
Located at 58 Tanjong Pagar Rd beside a pub called Bonkers and opposite The 50's Entertainment Nite Club. In this joint we have unplug live performance where we have a in house guitarist that will play and sing. Customers are most welcome to have a go at singing live on stage with the musician. He will adjust and accordingly to your vocal key and guide you along, so no fear... Other than that we have 2 sets of electrical dart boards and karaoke system to keep you entertain through out the night.
Operation Hours: Mon-Thurs 5pm-1am, Fri 5pm-3am, Sat 7pm-3am, Sun closed
Onyx 2 - ( Closed)
29 Kampong Bahru Rd along stretch of the shophouse across SGH after Cantonment Police Station. That's a mini pub, a little small, quiet but with pool table and a dart box machine not forgetting the usual karaoke system. If u love to sing and hate to queue and wait for songs, that's the place to be.
Operation Hours: Mon-Thurs 6pm-1am, Fri 6pm-3am, Sat 8pm-3am, Sun closed
Onyx 3
Located at 39 Circular Rd at Boat Quay somewhere across Rav beside after the mama shop beside a pizza joint. New joint just took over and started yesterday. Nice decor with a stage ready for unplug performance soon. Downside no pool or darts just purely karaoke and live performance in the future. Spacious and cozy place to be.
Operation Hours: Mon-Thurs 5pm-1am, Fri 5pm-3am, Sat 7pm-3am, Sun closed
*No longer with the company as of 30/01/2010....
Onyx 1 - (Closed)
Located at 58 Tanjong Pagar Rd beside a pub called Bonkers and opposite The 50's Entertainment Nite Club. In this joint we have unplug live performance where we have a in house guitarist that will play and sing. Customers are most welcome to have a go at singing live on stage with the musician. He will adjust and accordingly to your vocal key and guide you along, so no fear... Other than that we have 2 sets of electrical dart boards and karaoke system to keep you entertain through out the night.
Operation Hours: Mon-Thurs 5pm-1am, Fri 5pm-3am, Sat 7pm-3am, Sun closed
Onyx 2 - ( Closed)
29 Kampong Bahru Rd along stretch of the shophouse across SGH after Cantonment Police Station. That's a mini pub, a little small, quiet but with pool table and a dart box machine not forgetting the usual karaoke system. If u love to sing and hate to queue and wait for songs, that's the place to be.
Operation Hours: Mon-Thurs 6pm-1am, Fri 6pm-3am, Sat 8pm-3am, Sun closed
Onyx 3
Located at 39 Circular Rd at Boat Quay somewhere across Rav beside after the mama shop beside a pizza joint. New joint just took over and started yesterday. Nice decor with a stage ready for unplug performance soon. Downside no pool or darts just purely karaoke and live performance in the future. Spacious and cozy place to be.
Operation Hours: Mon-Thurs 5pm-1am, Fri 5pm-3am, Sat 7pm-3am, Sun closed
*No longer with the company as of 30/01/2010....
New Marlboro in the Market
Marlboro Ice Blast. Interesting... Ice minty when u smoke it but if u want it really cold squeeze the ice ball in the filter and blast it with a click sound. Wala! U get really cold menthols sweet tasting aroma. Interesting huh?
Comments from friends in FB:
Jeffrey Lim- Oh... I din know about the squeezie thingy..
Alycia Goh- Jeffrey- at first when I try I smoke without squeezing. Then after that I squeezed it or should I say I thought I did. but when I let my friend try, she squeeze it really hard and we both heard a click sound that's when the small little ice ball really blast. That's the right way to squeeze it. Lol...
Jeffrey Lim- Yuan lai ru ci... Too bad there's no instruction manual to this new thingy...
Alycia Goh- Jeff- there is, right behind on the bottom. I like the packaging very much. Looks damn cool lor... Black and blue... The black part looks very carbon fiber style... Lol...
Jeffrey Lim- Yea, that one I really agree... I actually quit smoking for 1 week ler, then I saw the new thing and itchy itchy smoke again. =P
Jeffrey Lim- Ooo... I just tried it... It is amazing!! Tastes like bubble gum. and it lasts rather long. But dun smoke too deep into the butt. =)
Alycia Goh- Jeffrey- I perfer it without blasting the ice ball. But I always blast at the last few puff for the refreshing taste... Lol...
Jeffrey Lim- I see... I like both. Looks like this is my new favourite cig. =)
Melissa Cherish Chu- hey i tried very hard to squeeze it but still no "click" sound, just bought so far smoked 3 liao, tried to squeeze all 3 but like no diff lor, n i did try quite hard T_T
Melissa Cherish Chu- machiam like squeeze any harder the whole filter will drop off lor =(
Jeffrey Lim- You have to do it REALLY hard... dun worry about crushing it. =)
Melissa Cherish Chu- wah piangz, REALLY hard, later let me try again, hmm
Simon Ng- squeeze the ball hard so it can give a refreshing taste...hmmm...first time heard this kind of interesting new cig...
Melissa Cherish Chu- tried again just now, still cant, lousy me, lolxx
Jeffrey Lim- Oooo... buy a hammer!! =P
Stone Lam- must try since I am a (M)an (A)lways (R)emember (L)ady (B)ecause (O)f (R)omance (O)nly supporter.
Ah Wee- i jus tried the new stuff... ok, not bad... but it's 20 cents more
Melissa Cherish Chu- yeah finally got it!!!!!
Jeffrey Lim- Weee... how u like it?
Melissa Cherish Chu- tasted like colgate lor
Ah Wee- bought a pack n pass arnd a few sticks with frnds... overall say is quite amaze on how the ball booster works. For me i find it 8.5/10 cos i smoke red, occasionally will puff a mentos... i notice they use the word discharge than a feel of turbo mentos.. "Discharge sounds like vd leh' hehehehe. suck vd? hehehe
Alycia Goh- Wee- Lol... Interesting right? I perfer it without blasting the ball but will always do it at the last few puff...
Alycia Goh- Melissa- Some say like menthols sweet, some say like bubble gums... Lol...
* Was wondering why they didn't come out with a none menthol cig and put this ice ball blast thingy in there so that we hv the option of menthol and none menthol. That's a brilliant idea isn't it? But come to think of it, they are really smart cause if they do that then people will only buy one pack to share instead of 2 different packs if there's none menthol and menthol social smokers around. That will bring down their sales.
Am not trying to encourage smoking, But as a smoker myself discovering this new interesting cig, just wanna share with all fellow smokers... Quite a interesting conversation we've got on this Marlboro Ice Blast ciggies huh? Lol.... I think Marlboro should pay me for advertising for them... Heehee...
Comments from friends in FB:
Jeffrey Lim- Oh... I din know about the squeezie thingy..
Alycia Goh- Jeffrey- at first when I try I smoke without squeezing. Then after that I squeezed it or should I say I thought I did. but when I let my friend try, she squeeze it really hard and we both heard a click sound that's when the small little ice ball really blast. That's the right way to squeeze it. Lol...
Jeffrey Lim- Yuan lai ru ci... Too bad there's no instruction manual to this new thingy...
Alycia Goh- Jeff- there is, right behind on the bottom. I like the packaging very much. Looks damn cool lor... Black and blue... The black part looks very carbon fiber style... Lol...
Jeffrey Lim- Yea, that one I really agree... I actually quit smoking for 1 week ler, then I saw the new thing and itchy itchy smoke again. =P
Jeffrey Lim- Ooo... I just tried it... It is amazing!! Tastes like bubble gum. and it lasts rather long. But dun smoke too deep into the butt. =)
Alycia Goh- Jeffrey- I perfer it without blasting the ice ball. But I always blast at the last few puff for the refreshing taste... Lol...
Jeffrey Lim- I see... I like both. Looks like this is my new favourite cig. =)
Melissa Cherish Chu- hey i tried very hard to squeeze it but still no "click" sound, just bought so far smoked 3 liao, tried to squeeze all 3 but like no diff lor, n i did try quite hard T_T
Melissa Cherish Chu- machiam like squeeze any harder the whole filter will drop off lor =(
Jeffrey Lim- You have to do it REALLY hard... dun worry about crushing it. =)
Melissa Cherish Chu- wah piangz, REALLY hard, later let me try again, hmm
Simon Ng- squeeze the ball hard so it can give a refreshing taste...hmmm...first time heard this kind of interesting new cig...
Melissa Cherish Chu- tried again just now, still cant, lousy me, lolxx
Jeffrey Lim- Oooo... buy a hammer!! =P
Stone Lam- must try since I am a (M)an (A)lways (R)emember (L)ady (B)ecause (O)f (R)omance (O)nly supporter.
Ah Wee- i jus tried the new stuff... ok, not bad... but it's 20 cents more
Melissa Cherish Chu- yeah finally got it!!!!!
Jeffrey Lim- Weee... how u like it?
Melissa Cherish Chu- tasted like colgate lor
Ah Wee- bought a pack n pass arnd a few sticks with frnds... overall say is quite amaze on how the ball booster works. For me i find it 8.5/10 cos i smoke red, occasionally will puff a mentos... i notice they use the word discharge than a feel of turbo mentos.. "Discharge sounds like vd leh' hehehehe. suck vd? hehehe
Alycia Goh- Wee- Lol... Interesting right? I perfer it without blasting the ball but will always do it at the last few puff...
Alycia Goh- Melissa- Some say like menthols sweet, some say like bubble gums... Lol...
* Was wondering why they didn't come out with a none menthol cig and put this ice ball blast thingy in there so that we hv the option of menthol and none menthol. That's a brilliant idea isn't it? But come to think of it, they are really smart cause if they do that then people will only buy one pack to share instead of 2 different packs if there's none menthol and menthol social smokers around. That will bring down their sales.
Am not trying to encourage smoking, But as a smoker myself discovering this new interesting cig, just wanna share with all fellow smokers... Quite a interesting conversation we've got on this Marlboro Ice Blast ciggies huh? Lol.... I think Marlboro should pay me for advertising for them... Heehee...
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Part 5
I'm writing part 5 of my biography on my bed with a headache and feeling very very hungry cause I haven't had anything the whole day. Couldn't really concentrate but I know many are looking forward to reading part 5. Anyway, let's carry on with the part on my step mother. As I was saying they got married as she was pregnant and she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. My little brother is such a cute baby. Life just went on till my step brother was about 3yrs old my dad starts to fool around again.
At that point of time I remembered that dad was working at a chinese restaurant in Bukit Merah SAF Club. He is a self trained musician playing the electrical organ in the restaurant. There was this lady that runs the chinese restaurant. From what I know, she is the mistress of the owner of the restaurant. Somehow or rather something fishy seems to be going on between them. My step mother got suspicious and had a big fight with my dad afterwhich she left my house and went home with my step brother. Not long after, there were some gangster that came knocking on my door and give my dad some sort of a warning which I think got to be associated with that mistress affair thingy.
Dad got pretty upset that my step mother left home with my little brother as he loves him a lot. One night, dad came home, face all blushed, crying and sounded drunk. One thing about my dad is that he doesn't drink. Should I say he can't drink for nuts, one sip of beer could make him look like he just down a bottle of Martell. And he doesn't smoke as well, he only womanizes and gambles. Oh ya, and so he came home knocking on the door, walked in sat on a chair and start weeping. He say he miss my little brother and he's sad that she took him home. Next thing, he turn to me and say "bring me to the 10th flr, I wanna jump down!" At that point of time, in my mind, I'm thinking to myself "this is such a joke" I was sad and amused at the same time. If he really wanna die, he could have went upstairs by himself and jumped. What makes him thinks that I will bring him upstairs to commit suicide right before my eyes? So drama mama, right? Lol...
To Be Continue...
At that point of time I remembered that dad was working at a chinese restaurant in Bukit Merah SAF Club. He is a self trained musician playing the electrical organ in the restaurant. There was this lady that runs the chinese restaurant. From what I know, she is the mistress of the owner of the restaurant. Somehow or rather something fishy seems to be going on between them. My step mother got suspicious and had a big fight with my dad afterwhich she left my house and went home with my step brother. Not long after, there were some gangster that came knocking on my door and give my dad some sort of a warning which I think got to be associated with that mistress affair thingy.
Dad got pretty upset that my step mother left home with my little brother as he loves him a lot. One night, dad came home, face all blushed, crying and sounded drunk. One thing about my dad is that he doesn't drink. Should I say he can't drink for nuts, one sip of beer could make him look like he just down a bottle of Martell. And he doesn't smoke as well, he only womanizes and gambles. Oh ya, and so he came home knocking on the door, walked in sat on a chair and start weeping. He say he miss my little brother and he's sad that she took him home. Next thing, he turn to me and say "bring me to the 10th flr, I wanna jump down!" At that point of time, in my mind, I'm thinking to myself "this is such a joke" I was sad and amused at the same time. If he really wanna die, he could have went upstairs by himself and jumped. What makes him thinks that I will bring him upstairs to commit suicide right before my eyes? So drama mama, right? Lol...
To Be Continue...
Thursday, October 29, 2009
11 One-Ingredient DIY Face Masks
*I'm always lazy to go thru the beauty regime. Chance upon this and find it pretty convenient for men or women. Getting healthy skin with one-ingredient, all-natural, DIY facials with common supplies you can easily find right out of your refrigerator shelf or kitchen cabinet.
1. Honey. Use a cloth damp with warm water and pat skin to open pores. Smear honey onto skin and leave on for 15 to 30 minutes. Rinse off with warm water, and pat skin dry with cloth damp with cold water to close pores.
2. Raw egg yolk. Spread on face and neck and leave on skin for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water.
3. Raw egg white. Beat egg white until frothy and spread on face. Wait until it dries and rinse off with warm water.
4. Grapes. Cut one grape in half and rub lightly all over face.
5. Banana. Mash one overripe banana and spread onto face. Rinse off after 15 to 30 minutes with warm water.
6. Plain yogurt. Apply on face after cleansing and leave on for 15 - 20 minutes.
7. Apple cider vinegar. Dilute apple cider vinegar with two parts water and apply over face with a cotton ball as a toner after washing face every day and every night.
8. Olive oil. Dab on lips at bedtime if chapped or leave on face overnight.
9. Avocado. Mash avocado, leave on skin for ten minutes.
10. Baking soda. Use as exfoliant for face by adding to your regular cleanser.
11. Milk. Seriously? Yes, seriously. Swab on face with cotton ball, leave on until your skin feels tight. Rinse off with warm water. Your skin will feel super-soft afterwards.
* Although all these seems simple but I doubt I'll bother to do it... Heehee... Too lazy... I'm like a man... I think some man does more than me on their beauty regime. Well, actually I don't even have one...
1. Honey. Use a cloth damp with warm water and pat skin to open pores. Smear honey onto skin and leave on for 15 to 30 minutes. Rinse off with warm water, and pat skin dry with cloth damp with cold water to close pores.
2. Raw egg yolk. Spread on face and neck and leave on skin for 30 minutes. Rinse with cool water.
3. Raw egg white. Beat egg white until frothy and spread on face. Wait until it dries and rinse off with warm water.
4. Grapes. Cut one grape in half and rub lightly all over face.
5. Banana. Mash one overripe banana and spread onto face. Rinse off after 15 to 30 minutes with warm water.
6. Plain yogurt. Apply on face after cleansing and leave on for 15 - 20 minutes.
7. Apple cider vinegar. Dilute apple cider vinegar with two parts water and apply over face with a cotton ball as a toner after washing face every day and every night.
8. Olive oil. Dab on lips at bedtime if chapped or leave on face overnight.
9. Avocado. Mash avocado, leave on skin for ten minutes.
10. Baking soda. Use as exfoliant for face by adding to your regular cleanser.
11. Milk. Seriously? Yes, seriously. Swab on face with cotton ball, leave on until your skin feels tight. Rinse off with warm water. Your skin will feel super-soft afterwards.
* Although all these seems simple but I doubt I'll bother to do it... Heehee... Too lazy... I'm like a man... I think some man does more than me on their beauty regime. Well, actually I don't even have one...
Sometimes the best resistance to a sense of “raging chaos” is non-resistance
A good and spiritual friend of mine once posed the question: “How do you resist insanity?”
Then she answered her own question. “The only way for me, as an individual, to resist is to hold on to who I am amidst all of the forces that want to turn me into something else.”
At first, I thought: “What a wonderful answer! It truly is all about staying centered when external chaos swirls around us. Each of us must stand tall when insanity claws at our clothes.” But then I thought about all the physical forces in my life that have swept me away from what I thought was solid ground, and into the raging current.
What was the purpose of those experiences?
Does one resist insanity or just release it and move on? That has been a constantly recurring question in my life. Usually, I’m stubborn. I exhaust every viable avenue for reducing the insanity before I’ll release it and walk away.
Insanity is the realm of bullies and dictators. Choosing to resist their arrogance, violence, and control issues can have huge spiritual benefits, both for the individual resisting, for the bullies, and for the world. It equalizes the playing field and reduces the bullies’ dysfunctional power.
However, if one chooses to resist insanity, there are non-functional and functional ways of doing so.
Spotting the non-functional ways
1. Allowing oneself to get sucked into the dictator’s insanity
2. Screaming
3. Name-calling
4. Hitting
5. Killing
6. Being nice because you’re afraid to set limits and to say ‘no’ and then continuing to feel anger
7. Becoming passive/aggressive
8. Continuing to bang your head against a stone wall that won’t budge
Take this path instead
1. Standing firm in one’s own spiritual identity. This takes a lot of energy when you’re being battered by dysfunctional human beings. You’re just like a lightning rod, standing there all alone, taking that dysfunctional energy and grounding it so it doesn’t harm either you or others. You won’t have enough energy to do that by yourself. If you can trust in and connect to a Power Greater than yourself, you have access to unlimited energy and resources.
2. Visualizing a shield of white light surrounding you that deflects the negative energy back to the perpetrator.
3. Sometimes turning the other cheek. Turning the other cheek often defuses the negative external energy. Why? Because the dysfunctional person expects you to fight and you don’t. It confuses them. The exception is when turning the other cheek is perceived as weakness rather than strength.
4. Setting boundaries or limits on bad behavior and sticking to them. Remove your energy from the bad behavior. Stop enabling it by giving it your attention. (If necessary, physically remove the offending person from your environment and allow him or her to cope without your support.)
5. Walking away so you don’t continue to feed the insanity with your presence and willingness to listen.
Then she answered her own question. “The only way for me, as an individual, to resist is to hold on to who I am amidst all of the forces that want to turn me into something else.”
At first, I thought: “What a wonderful answer! It truly is all about staying centered when external chaos swirls around us. Each of us must stand tall when insanity claws at our clothes.” But then I thought about all the physical forces in my life that have swept me away from what I thought was solid ground, and into the raging current.
What was the purpose of those experiences?
Does one resist insanity or just release it and move on? That has been a constantly recurring question in my life. Usually, I’m stubborn. I exhaust every viable avenue for reducing the insanity before I’ll release it and walk away.
Insanity is the realm of bullies and dictators. Choosing to resist their arrogance, violence, and control issues can have huge spiritual benefits, both for the individual resisting, for the bullies, and for the world. It equalizes the playing field and reduces the bullies’ dysfunctional power.
However, if one chooses to resist insanity, there are non-functional and functional ways of doing so.
Spotting the non-functional ways
1. Allowing oneself to get sucked into the dictator’s insanity
2. Screaming
3. Name-calling
4. Hitting
5. Killing
6. Being nice because you’re afraid to set limits and to say ‘no’ and then continuing to feel anger
7. Becoming passive/aggressive
8. Continuing to bang your head against a stone wall that won’t budge
Take this path instead
1. Standing firm in one’s own spiritual identity. This takes a lot of energy when you’re being battered by dysfunctional human beings. You’re just like a lightning rod, standing there all alone, taking that dysfunctional energy and grounding it so it doesn’t harm either you or others. You won’t have enough energy to do that by yourself. If you can trust in and connect to a Power Greater than yourself, you have access to unlimited energy and resources.
2. Visualizing a shield of white light surrounding you that deflects the negative energy back to the perpetrator.
3. Sometimes turning the other cheek. Turning the other cheek often defuses the negative external energy. Why? Because the dysfunctional person expects you to fight and you don’t. It confuses them. The exception is when turning the other cheek is perceived as weakness rather than strength.
4. Setting boundaries or limits on bad behavior and sticking to them. Remove your energy from the bad behavior. Stop enabling it by giving it your attention. (If necessary, physically remove the offending person from your environment and allow him or her to cope without your support.)
5. Walking away so you don’t continue to feed the insanity with your presence and willingness to listen.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Part 4
Thinking back... My life would have been so different if I were to leave with that family. Oh well, guess that's just not what my life should have been. I carry on living my childhood being taken care by different nannies and relatives. Dad got a HDB rental flat from the government when I was about to start my primary school and I moved back to stay with him. I still remember the first day of school dad took so long just to tied my hair for me and I realised that my socks was one up one down looking at my primary one class photo. Lol...
Life kind of got worse after moving home with dad. My dad is a entertainer by profession. He's a stage host, stage manager, singer etc. When I was just a little gal I hang around at theater and big nightclubs. Dad performed with many popular celebrities before. He appeared in newspaper and had lots of photos taken with popular celebrities. My dad is a very smart man, he's good looking, charming and so damn good with his words that many women fall for him. He had so many women in his life that I have absolutely no count of the number of them. My stepmother came into our life while I was in primary school. She's just 12yrs my senior and not a nice woman, typical stepmother figure.
She was staying with us before they got married and it seems like the family doesn't like my dad as he is much older and a divorcee. But that doesn't stop them from being together eventually she got pregnant and had to officially be married to my dad. She wasn't nice to me and kind of bully me every now and then but I just kept quiet didn't tell my dad about how she was towards me. She is the kind that says do your own things and yet she'll ask me to wash the dishes for her. She can cook dinner then say to me that she didn't cook my share asked me to cook myself if I want to eat. WTF?? Well, isn't that a typical stepmother? She even ever whack me before, which was not a big deal cause I get whack by my dad all the time whatever I get from her was nothing compare to those I got from my dad.
To be continue....
*On part 5 I will reveal how I suffered with a violent and temperamental dad.... Right now I'm having a terrible headache and resting at home. Don't want to think so hard about the past, just wanna rest.
Life kind of got worse after moving home with dad. My dad is a entertainer by profession. He's a stage host, stage manager, singer etc. When I was just a little gal I hang around at theater and big nightclubs. Dad performed with many popular celebrities before. He appeared in newspaper and had lots of photos taken with popular celebrities. My dad is a very smart man, he's good looking, charming and so damn good with his words that many women fall for him. He had so many women in his life that I have absolutely no count of the number of them. My stepmother came into our life while I was in primary school. She's just 12yrs my senior and not a nice woman, typical stepmother figure.
She was staying with us before they got married and it seems like the family doesn't like my dad as he is much older and a divorcee. But that doesn't stop them from being together eventually she got pregnant and had to officially be married to my dad. She wasn't nice to me and kind of bully me every now and then but I just kept quiet didn't tell my dad about how she was towards me. She is the kind that says do your own things and yet she'll ask me to wash the dishes for her. She can cook dinner then say to me that she didn't cook my share asked me to cook myself if I want to eat. WTF?? Well, isn't that a typical stepmother? She even ever whack me before, which was not a big deal cause I get whack by my dad all the time whatever I get from her was nothing compare to those I got from my dad.
To be continue....
*On part 5 I will reveal how I suffered with a violent and temperamental dad.... Right now I'm having a terrible headache and resting at home. Don't want to think so hard about the past, just wanna rest.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Results of some personality quizzes I took
“ What Kind of SUPER Rich Person Would You Be? ”
Bill Gates :
Bill and Melinda Gates are in the unique position of being the wealthiest couple in the world, and they seemed to recognize pretty early on that with great wealth (and great power) comes great responsibility. So they decided to get deeply involved in charity work. You share their view of enormous wealth, which means that if you were to suddenly strike it rich, you would almost immediately start donating very large sums to the charities of your choice.
“ What's Your Communication Personality? ”
Tactful Truthteller :
You value diplomacy, kindness and honesty, which means you are highly skilled at listening to and negotiating with your partner and others. Because you believe so strongly in open but positively worded communication, you prefer to discuss problems rather than ignore them, albeit in an utterly diplomatic manner. You may work well with a partner who values honest and open -- but also kindly phrased -- communication as much as you do.
" Shape Preference "
Click on a shape that appeals to you the most:
Down to Earth . . . Well-Balanced . . . Harmonious
You value a natural style and love that which is uncomplicated. People admire you because you have both feet planted firmly on the ground and they can depend on you. You give those who are close to you security and space. You are perceived as being warm and human. You reject everything that is garish and trite. You tend to be skeptical toward the whims of fashion trends. For you, clothing has to be practical and unobtrusively elegant.
*The last quiz I took was a Emotional Intelligence Test that consist of 106 Questions. After spending a long while to complete all questions something went wrong with the connection and I couldn't get the result!!! Damn it!!! Argh... Tired... Going to bed now, be back to update the part 4 of my biography soon...
Bill Gates :
Bill and Melinda Gates are in the unique position of being the wealthiest couple in the world, and they seemed to recognize pretty early on that with great wealth (and great power) comes great responsibility. So they decided to get deeply involved in charity work. You share their view of enormous wealth, which means that if you were to suddenly strike it rich, you would almost immediately start donating very large sums to the charities of your choice.
“ What's Your Communication Personality? ”
Tactful Truthteller :
You value diplomacy, kindness and honesty, which means you are highly skilled at listening to and negotiating with your partner and others. Because you believe so strongly in open but positively worded communication, you prefer to discuss problems rather than ignore them, albeit in an utterly diplomatic manner. You may work well with a partner who values honest and open -- but also kindly phrased -- communication as much as you do.
" Shape Preference "
Click on a shape that appeals to you the most:
Down to Earth . . . Well-Balanced . . . Harmonious
You value a natural style and love that which is uncomplicated. People admire you because you have both feet planted firmly on the ground and they can depend on you. You give those who are close to you security and space. You are perceived as being warm and human. You reject everything that is garish and trite. You tend to be skeptical toward the whims of fashion trends. For you, clothing has to be practical and unobtrusively elegant.
*The last quiz I took was a Emotional Intelligence Test that consist of 106 Questions. After spending a long while to complete all questions something went wrong with the connection and I couldn't get the result!!! Damn it!!! Argh... Tired... Going to bed now, be back to update the part 4 of my biography soon...
The 6 Healthiest Staple Foods in Japanese Cuisine
This is an article for those who love Japanese Food. I personally am crazy about Japanes cuisine!
Japanese cuisine relies heavily on the surrounding ocean -- seafood including fish, octopus, squid, crab, clams, shrimp, lobster and seaweed is a staple part of many meals.
Even more standard than seafood, though, is steamed white rice, which is eaten with just about every meal. Beef, noodles and spices like ginger, soy sauce, wasabi (Japanese horseradish), rice wine and rice vinegar are other essential ingredients.
Listed below are the 6 Healthiest Staple Foods in Japanese Cuisine:
1. Miso
Miso is a fermented soybean paste. After fermenting for a number of weeks to years, depending on variety, miso comes out with a texture similar to peanut butter, and a strong, salty flavor. It is used as a condiment, a flavoring agent and to make the popular miso soup.
Health Benefits: Miso contains many trace minerals including zinc, manganese, and copper, which help to strengthen the immune system, boost energy, and protect bones and blood vessels. It is also a rich source of protein -- one tablespoon has 2 grams of protein and just 25 calories.
Studies have also found that substances in miso help reduce the risk of breast cancer. Note: Miso is high in sodium, so it may not be appropriate for those on low-sodium diets.
2. Seaweed
Seaweeds like kelp, wakame, arame and dulse are commonly used to make Japanese salads and are added to soups, stews and other dishes. Seaweed is also used as a wrap for sushi. Seaweed tastes similar to leafy green vegetables, with an underlying salty, sea flavor.
Health Benefits: Seaweed contains the broadest range of minerals of any food -- the same minerals found in the ocean and in human blood, such as potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron, and iodine.
Seaweed also contains vitamin C, fiber, beta-carotene, and pantothenic acid and riboflavin -- two B-vitamins needed for your body to produce energy.
3. Natto
Natto is made from fermented soybeans and is a common breakfast food in Japan. It has a strong smell -- somewhat like a strong cheese -- and a sticky texture, and is often eaten with rice, soy sauce and chopped green onion.
Health Benefits: Natto is an excellent source of protein, vitamin B2, and vitamin k2, which is useful for preventing osteoporosis. It contains compounds including phytoestrogen, selenium and others that may help prevent cancer, and also contains a powerful beneficial enzyme called nattokinase.
Nattokinase has been found to help prevent and reduce the risk of blood clots, as well as provide heart-protective benefits. Some studies suggest that nattokinase can also reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke.
4. Mushrooms
Many mushroom varieties, including shitake and enoki, are popular in Japanese cuisine. They're used in soups, salads, and many other dishes.
Health Benefits: Mushrooms are rich in protein, fiber, vitamin C, B vitamins, calcium and minerals, but they are also renowned for their many medicinal properties. These nutritional powerhouses have been found to:
•Protect heart health
•Lower the risk of cancer
•Boost immune function
•Reduce high cholesterol
•Fight off viruses, bacteria and fungi
•Reduce inflammation
•Combat allergies
•Help balance blood sugar levels
•Support the body's detoxification mechanisms
•Help fight blood clots
5. Green Tea
Green tea is served at the end of traditional Japanese meals (not throughout the meal as is common in the United States). Although widely consumed in Japan for centuries, green tea is thought to have originated in China and Northern India.
Health Benefits: Green tea is a rich source of catechin polyphenols, namely epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG), which is a potent antioxidant that appears to be responsible for many of green tea's health benefits. Green tea has been found to help:
•Cancer
•Rheumatoid arthritis
•High cholesterol levels
•Heart disease
•Infection
•Impaired immune function
•Obesity, overweight
•High blood sugar levels
Note: Certain varieties of green tea (and other tea) may contain excessive levels of fluoride that could be harmful. Before drinking green tea, it's important to find a source that is pure.
6. Sashimi
Sashimi is thinly sliced raw fish, savored for its simplicity and often served with wasabi and soy sauce, and sometimes a bowl of rice.
Health Benefits: Sashimi offers all of the benefits of fresh fish -- an excellent source of protein, omega-3 fats, and other nutrients like selenium, niacin and vitamin B12, phosphorous, magnesium and vitamin B6. Because sashimi is consumed raw, it is possible for it to contain parasites, but choosing "sashimi grade" fish, or dining at a reputable restaurant, should reduce these risks.
*There's a Japanese restaurant located on the 1st floor of Amara Hotel shopping mall called Tokyo Japanese Restaurant, right beside Burger King fast food restaurant. They serve very nice Japanese Ala Carte Buffet for lunch and dinner. I'm not too sure about the price for lunch but for dinner, it's $35++ per pax and they have private rooms for mini gathering. I would say the price is pretty reasonable and value worth for the buffet menu they offered.
Japanese cuisine relies heavily on the surrounding ocean -- seafood including fish, octopus, squid, crab, clams, shrimp, lobster and seaweed is a staple part of many meals.
Even more standard than seafood, though, is steamed white rice, which is eaten with just about every meal. Beef, noodles and spices like ginger, soy sauce, wasabi (Japanese horseradish), rice wine and rice vinegar are other essential ingredients.
Listed below are the 6 Healthiest Staple Foods in Japanese Cuisine:
1. Miso
Miso is a fermented soybean paste. After fermenting for a number of weeks to years, depending on variety, miso comes out with a texture similar to peanut butter, and a strong, salty flavor. It is used as a condiment, a flavoring agent and to make the popular miso soup.
Health Benefits: Miso contains many trace minerals including zinc, manganese, and copper, which help to strengthen the immune system, boost energy, and protect bones and blood vessels. It is also a rich source of protein -- one tablespoon has 2 grams of protein and just 25 calories.
Studies have also found that substances in miso help reduce the risk of breast cancer. Note: Miso is high in sodium, so it may not be appropriate for those on low-sodium diets.
2. Seaweed
Seaweeds like kelp, wakame, arame and dulse are commonly used to make Japanese salads and are added to soups, stews and other dishes. Seaweed is also used as a wrap for sushi. Seaweed tastes similar to leafy green vegetables, with an underlying salty, sea flavor.
Health Benefits: Seaweed contains the broadest range of minerals of any food -- the same minerals found in the ocean and in human blood, such as potassium, calcium, magnesium, iron, and iodine.
Seaweed also contains vitamin C, fiber, beta-carotene, and pantothenic acid and riboflavin -- two B-vitamins needed for your body to produce energy.
3. Natto
Natto is made from fermented soybeans and is a common breakfast food in Japan. It has a strong smell -- somewhat like a strong cheese -- and a sticky texture, and is often eaten with rice, soy sauce and chopped green onion.
Health Benefits: Natto is an excellent source of protein, vitamin B2, and vitamin k2, which is useful for preventing osteoporosis. It contains compounds including phytoestrogen, selenium and others that may help prevent cancer, and also contains a powerful beneficial enzyme called nattokinase.
Nattokinase has been found to help prevent and reduce the risk of blood clots, as well as provide heart-protective benefits. Some studies suggest that nattokinase can also reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke.
4. Mushrooms
Many mushroom varieties, including shitake and enoki, are popular in Japanese cuisine. They're used in soups, salads, and many other dishes.
Health Benefits: Mushrooms are rich in protein, fiber, vitamin C, B vitamins, calcium and minerals, but they are also renowned for their many medicinal properties. These nutritional powerhouses have been found to:
•Protect heart health
•Lower the risk of cancer
•Boost immune function
•Reduce high cholesterol
•Fight off viruses, bacteria and fungi
•Reduce inflammation
•Combat allergies
•Help balance blood sugar levels
•Support the body's detoxification mechanisms
•Help fight blood clots
5. Green Tea
Green tea is served at the end of traditional Japanese meals (not throughout the meal as is common in the United States). Although widely consumed in Japan for centuries, green tea is thought to have originated in China and Northern India.
Health Benefits: Green tea is a rich source of catechin polyphenols, namely epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG), which is a potent antioxidant that appears to be responsible for many of green tea's health benefits. Green tea has been found to help:
•Cancer
•Rheumatoid arthritis
•High cholesterol levels
•Heart disease
•Infection
•Impaired immune function
•Obesity, overweight
•High blood sugar levels
Note: Certain varieties of green tea (and other tea) may contain excessive levels of fluoride that could be harmful. Before drinking green tea, it's important to find a source that is pure.
6. Sashimi
Sashimi is thinly sliced raw fish, savored for its simplicity and often served with wasabi and soy sauce, and sometimes a bowl of rice.
Health Benefits: Sashimi offers all of the benefits of fresh fish -- an excellent source of protein, omega-3 fats, and other nutrients like selenium, niacin and vitamin B12, phosphorous, magnesium and vitamin B6. Because sashimi is consumed raw, it is possible for it to contain parasites, but choosing "sashimi grade" fish, or dining at a reputable restaurant, should reduce these risks.
*There's a Japanese restaurant located on the 1st floor of Amara Hotel shopping mall called Tokyo Japanese Restaurant, right beside Burger King fast food restaurant. They serve very nice Japanese Ala Carte Buffet for lunch and dinner. I'm not too sure about the price for lunch but for dinner, it's $35++ per pax and they have private rooms for mini gathering. I would say the price is pretty reasonable and value worth for the buffet menu they offered.
Five Lessons About How To Treat People
1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady"
During a casual conversation with a friend, he popped me a question. "Do you take the effort to know the name of the woman who does the cleaning chores in any of your past and present workplace?
My answer? Not really... I just called them aunty. He said "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."
I've never forgotten that conversation. People comes and go in your life, especially those who does job that not many will do. Many of which are old folks that is still working at their age when they should be enjoying retirement life. They deserve our respect and we should take the effort to know them and remember who they are.
2. Second Important Lesson - "Pickup In The Rain"
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an old lady was standing at the bus stop will her hands full of things trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Soaking wet, she decided to take cab. She waited for a long time but there was no cab in sight. To her surprise a cab that says 'Hired' stops in front of her and a young man took her to safety, assist her with her things and put her into the cab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
3. Third Important Lesson - "Remember Those Who Serve"
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "50¢," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.
"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "35¢!" she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.
When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
4. Fourth Important Lesson - "The Obstacles In Our Path"
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."
5. Fifth Important Lesson - "Giving When It Counts"
Many years ago, a friend worked as a volunteer at a hospital, she got to know a little girl named Lisa who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. He hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her."
As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
*There are many small little things that we miss out in life that could make us a better person. Slow down for a moment, look around and you will realise the the right way around human interaction...
During a casual conversation with a friend, he popped me a question. "Do you take the effort to know the name of the woman who does the cleaning chores in any of your past and present workplace?
My answer? Not really... I just called them aunty. He said "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."
I've never forgotten that conversation. People comes and go in your life, especially those who does job that not many will do. Many of which are old folks that is still working at their age when they should be enjoying retirement life. They deserve our respect and we should take the effort to know them and remember who they are.
2. Second Important Lesson - "Pickup In The Rain"
One night, at 11:30 p.m., an old lady was standing at the bus stop will her hands full of things trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Soaking wet, she decided to take cab. She waited for a long time but there was no cab in sight. To her surprise a cab that says 'Hired' stops in front of her and a young man took her to safety, assist her with her things and put her into the cab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."
3. Third Important Lesson - "Remember Those Who Serve"
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "50¢," replied the waitress. The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.
"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "35¢!" she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.
When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
4. Fourth Important Lesson - "The Obstacles In Our Path"
In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.
Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."
5. Fifth Important Lesson - "Giving When It Counts"
Many years ago, a friend worked as a volunteer at a hospital, she got to know a little girl named Lisa who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. He hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her."
As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?" Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
*There are many small little things that we miss out in life that could make us a better person. Slow down for a moment, look around and you will realise the the right way around human interaction...
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Part 3
The first few parts of my biography will basically be my grandfather grand mother stories... Lol... I actually do not know much about my grand father. My grand father not only have one family, although my grand mother is the official wife but they were not officially registered by law. My so called second grandma was the lawfully wife.
My life kind of turn upside down when grandma passed away. I was not even 4yrs old then. As dad needs to work, I was thrown here and there like a basket ball to be taken care by nannies and relatives. The feeling of being taken care of by strangers really sucks. Not having your family around and sleeping at others house is not good at all. Growing up without a mum is pathetic especially when I'm a gal.
I remembered that I had a bad fall at one of the nanny's house was rushed to the hospital and had my head stitched. I had very deep impression of the incident cause they send me to the hospital without wearing shoes for me and it was so cold my feet freeze. From the day grandma passed away till before I attended primary school, I was basically deposited to different house here and there.
There's was this family that I once stayed with which seems to be pretty rich from what I recalled. They are not one of the nannies, instead they are my father's friend. It's this old couple with their grown up children. They stayed in this big two storey private mansion apartment with a swimming pool downstairs. The old couple and their children seems to love me a lot. I had fun staying with them for a short while. My dad told me that they actually wanted to adopt me and pay my dad a sum of money and dad actually agreed on the deal.
That family had already planned to migrate to the States bringing me along with them. What happen next was that on the last night before I'm about to go with them, dad brought me out for farewell dinner and ice cream. I was told by my dad that I cried cause I didn't want to leave with them. Damn! Why did I do that? I should have go with them. My life would have been so different if I made that move. Oh well, I was still so young then what would I know?
To be continue...
My life kind of turn upside down when grandma passed away. I was not even 4yrs old then. As dad needs to work, I was thrown here and there like a basket ball to be taken care by nannies and relatives. The feeling of being taken care of by strangers really sucks. Not having your family around and sleeping at others house is not good at all. Growing up without a mum is pathetic especially when I'm a gal.
I remembered that I had a bad fall at one of the nanny's house was rushed to the hospital and had my head stitched. I had very deep impression of the incident cause they send me to the hospital without wearing shoes for me and it was so cold my feet freeze. From the day grandma passed away till before I attended primary school, I was basically deposited to different house here and there.
There's was this family that I once stayed with which seems to be pretty rich from what I recalled. They are not one of the nannies, instead they are my father's friend. It's this old couple with their grown up children. They stayed in this big two storey private mansion apartment with a swimming pool downstairs. The old couple and their children seems to love me a lot. I had fun staying with them for a short while. My dad told me that they actually wanted to adopt me and pay my dad a sum of money and dad actually agreed on the deal.
That family had already planned to migrate to the States bringing me along with them. What happen next was that on the last night before I'm about to go with them, dad brought me out for farewell dinner and ice cream. I was told by my dad that I cried cause I didn't want to leave with them. Damn! Why did I do that? I should have go with them. My life would have been so different if I made that move. Oh well, I was still so young then what would I know?
To be continue...
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Part 2
Part 1 of my biography ends with grandma being admitted to the hospital. She passed away in the hospital shortly after. There was a grand funeral for her below our old house under the block of those Redhill 7th storey flat. I have no memory of the funeral at all, guess I was still too young then. All the memory I had was when I go through the photo album of the funeral.
Some of the memory I had of grandma was one of which she brought me to a jewellery shop at Chinatown to have my ear lopes pierce. I had vivid collection of myself sitting on the chair, crying hysterically when my ear lopes were pierced. And believe it or not, that's the only ear holes I have since then till now. I never had the courage to or should I say I actually didn't seriously have the intention to pierce anymore holes on myself, as I don't really wear earrings all the time. The other memory of my grandma I had was that she brought me to Chinatown for those car rides. Those which you pay a small amount for like a 15mins rides around the enclose open area for the rides.
My grandma was a motherly figure which all her sons loved dearly. I was told she was the best mother one ever had. She married my grandpa, dutifully fulfilled her part as a wife and a mother to her seven children. My grandpa was not a good husband nor is he a good father. I was told he don't his part as a husband. He doesn't support the family, he don't take care of his kids, he womanize and abuses my grandma. That reminds me of someone which I will slowly reveal in the later part of my biography.
To Be Continue...
Some of the memory I had of grandma was one of which she brought me to a jewellery shop at Chinatown to have my ear lopes pierce. I had vivid collection of myself sitting on the chair, crying hysterically when my ear lopes were pierced. And believe it or not, that's the only ear holes I have since then till now. I never had the courage to or should I say I actually didn't seriously have the intention to pierce anymore holes on myself, as I don't really wear earrings all the time. The other memory of my grandma I had was that she brought me to Chinatown for those car rides. Those which you pay a small amount for like a 15mins rides around the enclose open area for the rides.
My grandma was a motherly figure which all her sons loved dearly. I was told she was the best mother one ever had. She married my grandpa, dutifully fulfilled her part as a wife and a mother to her seven children. My grandpa was not a good husband nor is he a good father. I was told he don't his part as a husband. He doesn't support the family, he don't take care of his kids, he womanize and abuses my grandma. That reminds me of someone which I will slowly reveal in the later part of my biography.
To Be Continue...
Monday, October 19, 2009
16th Dec 1975 Part 1
On the day 16/12/1975 a little baby gal was brought to this little dot 'Singapore' on the map. I was told by my dad that the doctor and nurses told him that he had a pretty little baby gal. I am the child of a talented, handsome & charming man and a beautiful woman whom I doesn't know much of. My life begins... I don't have much impression of my baby childhood time except for some baby photos that was taken during those days. I was told by many others of what had happen after I was born. My parent divorce shorting after I was born. Due to the fact that my grandma give birth to only sons, I had a total of six uncles including my dad which rounds up to seven. My uncles had only sons as well, that was the reason that my dad fight for my custody. My grand ma wanted gals in the family but she never had any. Well, was that the real reason? Was there even a law case to fight for my custody? Or is it my mum simply didn't want to take me with her? I wouldn't know... Grandma took care of me till I was about 4yrs old and she passed away in 1979. I do not have much impression of her. I was told that we were at my grand aunty's house, she carried me to the toilet to pee and she fainted. That's when the ambulance was called for and she was send to the hospital. While she was there, the doctor informed everyone that she had high blood pressure. Having seven sons and nobody knows that she was sick? That's such a sad thing. Everybody starts putting the blame on each others for not taking good care of her. I was told that some even put the blame on a innocent little gal who's not even 4yrs old. They said if it's not because of taking care of me and bringing me to the toilet she wouldn't have fainted. I was pretty upset when this was told to me. There we have 7 grown up who doesn't know their poor mother is sick and when things happened, everybody starts shifting blame. They are not even ashame that they actually put the blame on me when I wasn't even 4yrs old back then. Such a laughing stock...
To Be Continue...
It's 6:45am now and I have finished on the first part of my biography. I might not be able to recall many details of my life but will try my best to recall whatever I can. Never have the habit of writing diary but now I am gonna try to write it all down bit by bit. I dunno how long it will take me to reach the present now but I'm going to patiently jot it down to my life now and carry on from here. Please bear with my blog site as it's still under construction. Will be back to make it better. Time for me to catch some sleep... Good day...
To Be Continue...
It's 6:45am now and I have finished on the first part of my biography. I might not be able to recall many details of my life but will try my best to recall whatever I can. Never have the habit of writing diary but now I am gonna try to write it all down bit by bit. I dunno how long it will take me to reach the present now but I'm going to patiently jot it down to my life now and carry on from here. Please bear with my blog site as it's still under construction. Will be back to make it better. Time for me to catch some sleep... Good day...
Foreword
Took me a while before I decide on whether or not I should start blogging. Finally I took the first step to set up an account. Was going about checking out the functions available in blogspot I've come to realised that for a not too IT proficient person like me, I can only figure out about 70% of operating all the functions. Will seek advises on how to fully utilise this blog page. The title of my blog is AG Biography, pretty obvious I'm going to share my life story online. I'm a nobody, just a ordinary woman with an extraordinary life. I'm not yet successful nor am I a popular individual. I'm just a woman with a interesting life story to share. I'm new to blogging although I hv been reading lots of other's blog and I realise that many blog page are like bimbo's diary. There are no substance in the contents of the things they wrote. Well, I do have to admit to the fact that my command of english may not be pre and proper and I would not be able to update daily but it will definitely not be a bimbo's dairy, lol... Also if u r expecting lots of photos to be posted here, I'm afraid I'll hv to disappoint u. I hv decide to minimize the posting of photos here as a blog should be a place where I pen down my thoughts, share my experiences or write some interesting article. Not a place to be flooded with more photos than words. I hv an FB account to post or update my photos. Keep a lookout for the occasional updates of the Biography of Alycia Goh.
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